As girls have been able to become economically and socially independent, many of them embrace this and like to do everything themselves. Sadly, this is not always possible. Since the economic downturn many women are having to scrape by on the poverty line or stay living at home because it is just not financially viable to move out. It can be incredibly hard to get by alone and because of this more and more people are relying on others to help them. With higher tuition fees, high youth unemployment, and the now proposed scrapping of housing benefit for the under 25s in the UK, this financial dependence is only set to rise.
It is not only financial help we rely on others for, we rely on others for communication, emotional support, and travel. In some extreme cases people can end up depending solely on one person for their social life.
But does relying on others benefit or hinder our lives in the long run?
One of the dangers of relying on a particular person for an aspect of our lives is that if that person leaves or is no longer around we can become lost – what happens then? Often this reliance can lead to a very restricted life as you are limited by other peoples’ lives and abilities as well as your own. Girls in particular can end up using a relationship as a crutch – letting their partner handle bills, drive everywhere, and make social arrangements. This leaves the experiences and skills set of the dependent far behind that of their partners.
Independence is an important step in finding out who you are, what you like and what you want from life, if this is not gained then we can often fall back to others to make decisions that may not always be in our best interest.
On the other hand too much independence can lead to stubbornness – many feel it is a sign of weakness to ask for help but this can often the best and quickest solution to a problem. Personally I like to stand on my own two feet – but a little help can sometimes go a long way, especially in today’s climate.
Girl Museum Inc.